Lillian Westley

Lillian Westley, MA, AMFT

Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist AMFT 118263
Supervised by Dr. Thomas Lucking, PhD, LMFT 97696

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Lillian is most passionate about working with couples who are looking to develop a more fulfilling connection. Transitions, infidelities, and individual differences can lead partners to feel misunderstood and alone. Lillian helps couples to rebuild trust and strengthen communication skills, so that they may repair hurts in their relationship and grow stronger – together. Her goal as a Psychotherapist is to provide the openness and unconditional positive regard necessary to build insight and restore balance, both within the individuals and within the relationship. Foundational to her work is helping clients realign with themselves and each other.

Lillian has a specialty working with Neurodiverse couples. She works under the supervision of Dr. Thomas Lucking, PhD who is a published author, speaker, and expert in the field of Neurodiversity. Lillian supports NT partners who are struggling with OTRS (Ongoing Traumatic Relationship Syndrome). She uses the Island of Shared meaning model that Dr. Lucking created to support ND relationships and partners to bridge the Neurodiverse gap that these relationships struggle with.

Lillian tailors her approach to fit the personality and goals of her clients. She draws from theoretical orientations such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Through a collaborative process, she can help couples identify patterns that may be contributing to undesirable states, allowing them in turn, to explore avenues for positive change.

Lillian first fell in love with the world of Psychotherapy serving as a Peer Counselor for a Domestic Violence shelter in 2016. There, she helped to coach others through the issues of trauma, abuse and sexual assault. After completing her Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University of Santa Barbara in 2019, Lillian went on to broadened her scope of practice, treating children with developmental delays, adolescence, Individuals, couples and families. Much of her experience has centered around those struggling with anxiety, depression, grief, life transitions and problems within interpersonal relationships.


  • Attachment and Relational issues
  • Communication Skill Building using the Island of Shared Meaning model
  • Complex Trauma
  • Childhood Trauma
  • Neurodiverse couples including NT partner support

Practice areas:

  • ADHD
  • Autism Spectrum
  • Anxiety
  • Behavioral Issues
  • Depression

Clients: Couples, Families, Individuals

Locations: Telehealth, Los Gatos, Santa Cruz

Lillian is a member of Therapy InMotion