Locations

We have 5 locations around the Bay Area in addition to offering telehealth sessions anywhere in the world. We offer in-office and outdoor therapy appointments as well as telehealth and Neurofeedback at our locations. Our providers can also come to your location for sessions, workshops, or educational events.

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Heal, grow, and realize your optimal self

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Addiction & Trauma

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Mood & Impulse Control

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Neurofeedback

Couples & Families

Transform your relationships from survive to thrive

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Couples Counseling

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Neurodiverse Relationships

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Parenting

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Blended Families

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Supervised Visitation

Groups & Workshops

Experience the power of social learning and growth

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Neurotypical Partner Group

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ISM Dialogue Group

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Communications Workshop

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Momentum Life Group

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Engaging Christianity Group

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Adults & Teens

Heal, grow, and realize your optimal self

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Addiction & Trauma

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Mood & Impulse Control

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Neurofeedback

Couples & Families

Transform your relationships from survive to thrive

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Couples Counseling

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Neurodiverse Relationships

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Parenting

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Blended Families

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Supervised Visitation

Groups & Workshops

Experience the power of social learning and growth

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Neurotypical Partner Group

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ISM Dialogue Group

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Communications Workshop

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Momentum Life Group

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Engaging Christianity Group

Get help using our Treatment Planner

Locations

We have 5 in-person offices around the Bay Area in addition to offering telehealth sessions anywhere in the world. Our providers can also come to your location for sessions, workshops, or educational events.

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Los Gatos

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Fremont

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Sacramento

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Santa Cruz

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Mill Valley

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Couples
Couples Experts
ISM communication drives emotional connection

Our ISM relationship program will accelerate healing, hope, and forward motion in your relationship like nothing else. It integrates yet goes beyond other approaches and brings you the best strategies to achieve your relationship goals.

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We Help Relationships

Neurodiversity, infidelity, lack of intimacy, emotional distance, conflict resolution, culture of negativity, difficult issues

Autism
Autism Help from Silicon Valley
The world's tech hub struggles & thrives with ASD

We know well the challenges of being on the Autism spectrum. We also know the amazing strengths and gifts that ASD can bring. There is a quirkiness and beauty deep in the Autistic mind but it needs to be understood. Like all mindsets there are strengths and challenges. We help accentuate the strengths.

We Help with Autism

Neurodiverse relationships, alexithymia, special interests, social & emotional intelligence, stimming, perseverating, OTRS, Cassandra

ADHD
ADHD & Executive Functioning
A truly holistic treatment approach

Treatment starts with a thorough assessment. We help you understand your challenges and create a treatment plan that may include therapy, Neurofeedback, health education, and a referral for medications. We help you get focused and get back to pursuing your dreams.

We Help with ADHD

Concentrate and do deep work, avoid distraction especially from digital devices, control your emotions or impulses, plan and follow through on what matters to you

Trauma
Military Grade Trauma-Informed Care
Driven by our extensive work with veterans

Trauma can be at the root of many mental health disorders from addiction to depression to relationship struggles. We offer an integrative approach to addressing trauma at its root cause. From EMDR to Neurofeedback to CBT to emotional freedom technique and behavioral strategies we understand the neuroscience behind trauma and can help.

We Help Heal Trauma

Unexplained emotional reactivity, unmanaged triggers, sleep disruption, thoughts that get stuck, intrusive thoughts or flashbacks, high anxiety

Parenting
Positive Parenting
with a Plan
Succeed in the two major tasks of parenting

The first job of parents is to love their children. The second job is to teach, form, and guide them so they know how to live as a responsible happy adults. Our XYZ parenting model provides the structure needed to accomplish these two tasks.

We Help Parents

Empower children, manage oppositional behavior and defiance, teach agency and communion, build family cohesion, and a positive family culture

Families
Family Therapy
Family systems work matters

Whether your family is intact, in transition, or in trouble we can help. Whether your family is blended, nested, or conflicted we have solutions. Stable loving families raise kind, caring, and responsible children. These families don't happen without effort. We can help accelerate your path towards healing, hope, and forward motion for your family.

We Help Families

Reduce tension, address alliances and triangulation, create healthy boundaries, promote a positive values-based culture, reconcile past wounds

Addiction
Digital & Sex Addiction
Coping strategies that don't end well

Addiction is a pleasure seeking strategy to deal with pain. Yet addiction ends up causing more pain than the pain that it tries to run from. An integrative approach to addiction is essential. Addiction is hard to beat once the brain is wired to seek it out when life gets hard. We use a multimodal integrative approach that addresses the individual and the social context in which the individual lives. We promote connection to heal addiction.

We Treat Addiction

Do you play video games, surf the web, or use social media for more than 2 hours per day? Are you ashamed of your porn use but can't stop? Are you isolating, losing sleep, or less effective at life tasks? Have people told you that you may have a problem? Do you find yourself lying despite knowing that it is wrong?

Neurofeedback
Neurofeedback goes beyond talk therapy
Train your brain to be your optimal self

Neurofeedback compliments talk therapy. It trains your brain to resolve your mental health issues faster than with talk therapy alone. There are no side effects and no reason not to try Neurofeedback. It's like going to the gym for your brain and walking away feeling great.

Neurofeedback Helps

ADHD, Addiction, Anxiety, ASD, Emotional overwhelm due to unregulated sensory processing, Headaches, Migraines, Mood disorders, Trauma

Couples Counseling

We invest in a lot of things. What investments matter most? What’s more important than your intimate relationship? Relationships do not thrive without attention and energy, especially when emotional distance and the stress of life divides us. Couples therapy or coaching can be life changing. You owe it yourself, your partner, your family, and your community to work on the loving relationship which you intended from the beginning.

Get Help Sooner than Later

Couples usually wait too long before getting help. Relationship problems are easy to put off. One can avoid the issue, deliver the silent treatment, become passive aggressive, blame the other partner, distract oneself from relational problems, and a host of other less than helpful coping actions. Because relationships are rooted so deeply in early attachment processes, they don’t just move forward in a sustainable fashion without any effort. Preventative maintenance is essential. At the first sign of trouble that persists – get help.

Relationship Renewal

We have developed a 7 phase relationship renewal program that your provider will introduce you to. This model is a combination of theory and action. Action occurs using concepts like social experiments and dialogue sprints. You will rapidly learn about your relationship and what is possible within your union. Learn more about our 7 phase model here.

Your provider will create an unbiased, safe, structured space for each partner to speak their truth. A thorough intake and history will be taken to understand exactly what your challenges are and what crises need to be addressed first. A wide variety of assessments are used to further identify exactly what is blocking you from deeper intimacy. Treatment is unique for each couple but uses evidence-based theories such as CBT, IFS, EFT, and tools we have developed that you can implement immediately. Accountability is also an important part of our work. This helps each partner know they are not alone. Change begins with your first session.

Statistics

5 most frequent relationship problem areas: communication (63%), unrealistic expectations of marriage or spouse (62%), finances (60%), decision making (55%), power struggles (51%) (Stahmann, R. F., & Heibert, W. J. (1997))

Quotes

Do you want to be right or in relationship?
– Thomas Lucking, PhD
Dialogue is not meant to resolve differences. Dialogue is meant to allow differences. – Pastor Clement
If you want to go fast go alone, if you want to go far go together. – African Proverb

Testimonials

“Since my partner and I have known each other (about 20 years) I think we’ve never communicated like we did last session. I believe in synchronicity and people showing up in life at the right time. Meeting Dr. Lucking has been a moment of synchronicity for us.”
– Couples client